Everybody hurts sometime
Most of us at some point in life are going to find a situation or relationship difficult.
Somethings we find difficult are likely to happen, it may be caused by your own doing and others things are not.
You may feel the word suffering is too strong word for your discomfort, but in the Buddhist teaching the size of your pain, discomfort or suffering do not matter.
How to deal with it is the same.
Firstly, acceptance, this is upsetting me.
There is reason why this is happening or upsetting me.
There is an end to this.
And the end is how I relate to difficulties.
End of suffering is though the eight-fold path. (Daily practices of meditation and mindfulness how we relate to other people and situations.)
The eightfold path is at the heart of the middle way, which turns from extremes, and encourages us to seek the simple approach. In Buddhism, the eightfold path is meant as a guideline, to be considered, to be contemplated, and to be taken on when, and only when each step is fully accepted as part of the life you seek. Buddhism never asks for blind faith, it seeks to promote learning and a process of self-discovery.
Approaching every aspect of the practice with curiosity and a sense of search.
A commitment to cultivate qualities like compassion, generosity and gratitude.
Speaking truthfully, avoiding slander, gossip and abusive speech.
Before speaking check in with yourself; Is it true, Is it kind, Is helpful
Behaving peacefully and harmoniously; refraining from stealing, killing and overindulgence in sensual pleasure. Contemplated what consequences have our actions? For ourselves and others?
Avoiding making a living in ways that cause harm, such as exploiting people or killing animals, or trading in intoxicants or weapons.
How do you feel about your work, do you feel that your job gives something positive to the world?
Enjoy your practice here with a relaxed and gentle attitude, with an open mind and receptive heart. Cultivating positive states of mind; freeing oneself from evil and unwholesome states and preventing them arising in future.
To be mindful is to be truly alive, present and at one with those around you and with what you are doing. Developing awareness of the body, sensations, feelings and states of mind. Seeing patterns and habits that are not helpful.
Focusing on one thing at the time, helps to unclutter the mind. Practising meditation regularly, helps focus in daily life.
To learn more about each paths, listen to teachings on http://dharmaseed.org/talks/. You can also down load a free app to mobile phone.